Thanks to God and people those really helped me in my difficult...

I went into the love marriage against family wishes in the year of 1996. It was a drastic change for me since my new family was a big joint family and I had spent all my life in a nuclear family. And moreover the family members were not welcome and supportive. I tried my best coping up with the change and mingling with them, but they never understood me or supported me. I became a mother soon and couldn’t have been happier. The attitude of my extended family continued to get worse. I tried settling with them,  but to no avail. And then one day all hell broke loose when suddenly my husband passed away. My son was only 5 years old that time and I was not a working woman. This was the turning point of my life. My whole life changed. It was already very painful for me and on the top of everything everyone blamed me for my husband’s death. But yes,  there were people in my family who supported me,  but then they were few.

After my husband’s death, I started my studies again and completed my B.A. and did a computer course. 6 months after my husband had passed away, I started working and paid for my son’s school fees. I would work all day in the office and at night my family would bad mouth me. I used to cry all the time at night and then would take to reading to divert myself away from all the nagging. Almost 4 years passed like this. Some people advised me for remarriage. But I never wanted to remarry because I was concerned if the new person in my life would be able to love my son as much as his own father would have. That time I decided that time that I would be independent and work hard for the sake of my son. Now, after so many years, I am happy that I took this decision.

I continued working hard,  but the salary I was getting was very less. So, I applied on many job portals. I got an interview call from a company but I was full of negativity due to the hardships in life. Yet I gave the interview and to my surprise got selected.

After some time of taking up the new job, I got an increment in a couple of months and new responsibilities. After all these years I am earning well and am much more confident too. I feel safe as well.

I got separated from my in laws sometime back and now I am living with my son. He is 18 years old now and a matured person.  During all this long hard period God and some wonderful people have helped me and because of them I am still alive and smiling. So from the bottom of my heart,I am thankful to them all.

Besides this, I would really want to tell all women out there to study hard and be educated because education is something that will always help them in all walks of life. And there’s nothing like being self-dependent and having their own identity.