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Sunday 28 February 2016
The Purpose of Life
The Purpose of Life: "No one is more cherished in this world than someone who lightens the burden of another.” Anonymous If you have a friend who is going through some kind of difficult time, help them by making sure you maintain your joy. Your good feelings will help lift them. You can also help them by directing their conversations so that they speak about what they want. As they fall into speaking about what they don't want, just keep gently leading them back to speaking about what they want. You can also speak to them as though their difficult time is over, and suggest they imagine that it has all passed and worked out beautifully. Be the conductor when you speak with them, and help them stay in tune with the Universe.From the moment you are born, you have a cosmic partner who never leaves your side throughout your whole life. This cosmic partner has unbelievable contacts, and unlimited means and ways of doing anything you want. Time is no obstacle, size is no problem, and space doesn't exist for your cosmic partner. There isn't anything your partner cannot do for you. And all you have to do is follow the cosmic rules. Ask, and then really believe that in the moment you ask, what you desire is already yours. And that 'cosmic partner' is God! It is so important that you are grateful for everything in your life. Many people focus on the one thing they want and then forget to be grateful for all the things they have. Without gratitude you cannot achieve anything through the law of attraction, because if you are not emanating gratitude from your being, then by default you are emanating ungratefulness. Be proactive and use the frequency of your being to receive whatever you want. Einstein told us that time is just an illusion. When you understand and accept that there is no time, you can see that whatever you want in the future already exists. That is why when you write, imagine, or speak of your desire, you should use the present tense. Radiate your desire in your mind, heart, and body, and see it as here now. You can change the path of your life from dark to light or from negative to positive. Every single time you focus on the positive you are bringing more light into your life, and you know that light removes all darkness. Gratitude, love, kind thoughts, words, and actions bring light and eliminate the darkness. Fill your life with the light of positivity! And use all your energy in helping others- that's what we are here for!
Friday 26 February 2016
Shortcut to Experience
Shortcut to Experience: Big idea: Why wait to get old to become experienced? l want the experience of an old man while I’m still young. And I think I’ve figured out a way to get it: Collapse the timeline. Most people don’t take that many risks or have that many new conversations or read that many new books or take that many new travels. By engaging in these and other experience- building pursuits at a dramatically accelerated rate, I figure I could get10 years' worth of learning and lessons in a quarter of the time. Just collapse the timeline by doing more important stuff faster and sooner. Just stay focused and committed. Just put more living into each of your days. We all get the same allotment of time. Each of us gets 24 hours each day. The sad fact is that too many among us spend too much time doing unimportant things. Saying "yes" to activities they should be saying "no" to. Drifting like a piece of wood in a river, moving in whatever direction the current happens to be moving on that particular day. All because they did not make the time to think. About their priorities. About their dreams and goals. And to note what they want to make of their lives. People have lost 20 good years this way. Seriously. By getting clear on what you want out of life, you heighten your awareness around what’s most important. With better awareness comes better choices. And with better choices you’ll see better results. Clarity breeds success. So don’t wait until the end of your life to become experienced. Collapse the timeline. Get clear on what you need to experience to have a fulfilling life—and then start doing it now. Meet cool people. Visit neat places. Read deep books. Seize opportunities. Fail often- it reflects an increase in your reach and risk-taking. Who cares if you win or lose, so long as you get another experience to add to the inventory. Even the saddest of times make your life richer. Gaspar Cassado' in his wonderful book "The Art of Possibility" says: "I'm so sorry for you; your lives have been so easy. You can't play great music unless your heart's been broken.” The more experiences, the better life. The person who experiences most wins.
Shortcut to Experience
Shortcut to Experience: Big idea: Why wait to get old to become experienced? l want the experience of an old man while I’m still young. And I think I’ve figured out a way to get it: Collapse the timeline. Most people don’t take that many risks or have that many new conversations or read that many new books or take that many new travels. By engaging in these and other experience- building pursuits at a dramatically accelerated rate, I figure I could get10 years' worth of learning and lessons in a quarter of the time. Just collapse the timeline by doing more important stuff faster and sooner. Just stay focused and committed. Just put more living into each of your days. We all get the same allotment of time. Each of us gets 24 hours each day. The sad fact is that too many among us spend too much time doing unimportant things. Saying "yes" to activities they should be saying "no" to. Drifting like a piece of wood in a river, moving in whatever direction the current happens to be moving on that particular day. All because they did not make the time to think. About their priorities. About their dreams and goals. And to note what they want to make of their lives. People have lost 20 good years this way. Seriously. By getting clear on what you want out of life, you heighten your awareness around what’s most important. With better awareness comes better choices. And with better choices you’ll see better results. Clarity breeds success. So don’t wait until the end of your life to become experienced. Collapse the timeline. Get clear on what you need to experience to have a fulfilling life—and then start doing it now. Meet cool people. Visit neat places. Read deep books. Seize opportunities. Fail often- it reflects an increase in your reach and risk-taking. Who cares if you win or lose, so long as you get another experience to add to the inventory. Even the saddest of times make your life richer. Gaspar Cassado' in his wonderful book "The Art of Possibility" says: "I'm so sorry for you; your lives have been so easy. You can't play great music unless your heart's been broken.” The more experiences, the better life. The person who experiences most wins.
Leave your desk and move out
Leave your desk and move out: The best performers in business don’t hide behind their desks. They know that business is all about connecting to people. When people like you and know you and trust you, they will help you just the way it is. Human nature at play. The best managers get out from behind their desks and have rich and meaningful conversations with their team. They get that passion is contagious and, before someone will lend you their hand, you need to touch their heart. The best salespeople get out from behind their desks and break bread with their customers. They understand the power of relationship-selling. (Big idea—-people don't buy products and services, they buy people and relationships.) The best employees get out from behind their desks to collaborate with their teammates, support their colleagues and to spread their enthusiasm. More than ever in my own life, I try to get out of the office. I love my team but they know what they are doing. They don’t need me there anymore. They lead without title and are empowered. I’ll just get in their way if I’m around too much. I need to be out meeting my much-cherished customers. I need to be out serving my beloved customers and helping them build world—class products. I need to be out learning new ideas and interesting insights. Hiding behind my desk is the worst place I could be.
Thursday 25 February 2016
The Heart of your House
Tuesday 23 February 2016
Become an Inspirational Human Being
Become an Inspirational Human Being: l dropped my daughter off at college the other day and was amused by what she did when she walked into her classroom. She passed one of her friends and said: “Why so glum, chum?” Her friend, who had been looking very serious, looked up. Both of them broke into laughter. Got me smiling. Then it got me thinking.Greatness in business as well as in life comes by being an inspirational human being. We need to uplift people by our attitude and our very presence. When we see someone feeling down or experiencing a struggle or doubting their potential or in need of a kind word, it’s our duty to help them, perhaps by asking, “Why so glum, chum?” The best way to lead and elevate another human being- whether that means a co-worker or a family member or a friend, is to model the behavior you wish to see. The best way to influence others is to lead by example. You can preach a better sermon with your life than with your words. Talk really is cheap. Extraordinary human beings live their message. They walk their talk. And above all else, they are inspirational. Are you? What would the organizations we work for and the communities we live in and the planet we walk look like if each and every one of us did our part to be inspirational leaders each day—encouraging them to be better human beings? We can curse the darkness or we can light a candle. And our world needs more light. Shine. Today.
Make a Dent in the Universe
Make a Dent in the Universe: I'm up earlier than usual as I write this chapter. Listened to some beautiful music. Started thinking about where my life’s at and where I want to take it. About my hunger to have an impact. Leadership—as a human being—is about having an impact. Making a difference. Leaving things better than you found them. Well said Shimon Peres, on what he believed the purpose of life to be: “To find a cause that’s larger than yourself and then to give your life to it.” What would this world of ours look like if each of us had found our cause or life’s purpose and were then passionately pursuing it? There would be less hatred, fewer wars and more love. And we’d be united as one race. As Coretta Scott King said: "When you are willing to make sacrifices for a great cause, you will never be alone."Apple CEO Steve Jobs used to tell his People that by showing up at their best they would have the opportunity to "make a dent in the universe". Jobs definitely gets it. Sure it's Important to make a profit in business. Sure you want your enterprise to be operationally excellent. Sure you want high-quality products and services. And sure you need to keep innovating and growing your brand. But isn't having an impact in the world - by helping your clients and positively influencing others - what business is ultimately about? So a gentle question from a man who wishes only the best for you: "What dent will you make today?" What cause will you pursue? What contribution will you make- at work, at home- in life?
Sunday 21 February 2016
Problems bring out the Genius
Problems bring out the Genius: Problems are servants. Problems bring possibilities. They help you grow and lead to better things, both in your organization and within your life. Inside every problem lies a precious opportunity to improve things. Every challenge is nothing more than a chance to make things better. To avoid them is to avoid growth and progress. To resist them is to decline greatness. Embrace and get the best from the challenges in front of you. And understand that the only people with no problems are dead. An unhappy customer yelling at you might seem like a problem. But to a person thinking like a leader, that scenario is also a giant opportunity to improve the organization’s processes to ensure that doesn’t happen again and to get some feedback that may be used to enhance products and services. So the problem has actually helped to improve the company. Free market research. An interpersonal conflict at work can seem like a problem. But if you think like a leader and use the circumstance to build understanding, promote communication and enrich the relationship, the problem has actually made you better. It has been fodder for your growth and served you nicely. Bless it. An illness or a divorce or the loss of a loved one might seem like a problem. Sure it’s painful. But We are shaped by our saddest experiences. They bring to us depth, compassion and wisdom. They give us self awareness. Actually they've made me the man that I am. I wouldn't trade them for the world. Problems reveal genius. World-class organizations have a culture that sees problems as opportunities for improvement. Don’t condemn them—learn from them and embrace them. World-class human beings turn their wounds into wisdom. They leverage their failures to bring them closer to success. They don’t see problems. They see possibilities. And that’s what makes them great. Remember, a mistake is only a mistake if you make it twice.
Simple tactics for Superb Relationships
Simple tactics for Superb Relationships: Any good psychologist will tell you that one of the deepest needs of a human being is the need to belong. We are happiest when we feel connected to others—when we are part of a community. Top performers in business make it a priority to build relationships with their teammates and their customers. Connecting with the people who surround them is not seen as a waste of time; instead, it is an exquisitely wise use of their time. As a leadership development specialist, I work with our corporate clients to build cultures where people and relationships come first. This promotes communication, collaboration and strong business results. When people feel appreciated, they shine. Here are 10 deceptively simple ideas for building your human connections that have helped employees of the companies to reach a whole new level of high performance:1. Be the most positive person you know. 2. Be candid and speak truthfully. 3. Be on time. 4. Say please and thank you. 5. Under-promise and over-deliver. 6. Leave people better than you found them. 7. Be friendly and caring. 8. Be a perfect listener. 9. Become passionately interested in other people. 10. Smile a lot. Here’s a bonus point: Treat people with respect-always. l’ve discovered a very powerful law that just may change the way you lead as well as the way you live: To get respect, give respect. There's a story of a respected consultant who was engaged—at a great sum of money—to reveal his many years of wisdom with the management team of a large organization. The consultant walked into the meeting room and looked intensely at the group. He then reached for a marker and wrote four words on the whiteboard behind him: "Treat people with respect." He smiled at the executives. And then he left.
Do You Play?
Thursday 18 February 2016
Your Schedule doesn‘t Lie
Your Schedule doesn‘t Lie: There‘s an old phrase that says "what you're doing speaks so loudly I cannot hear what you're saying." You can say that your primary value involves putting your family first, but if time with your family is not all over your schedule, well then the truth of the matter is that your family life isn't your priority. You can say that being in world-class physical condition is another top value but if you don't have five or six workouts a week, then the reality to be confronted is that your health just isn't as important as you profess it to be. Show me your schedule and I will discover the truth because your schedule doesn't lie. There can be no authentic success and lasting happiness if your daily schedule is misaligned with your deepest values. That’s a big idea that has been so helpful to so many of the people. If there is a gap between what you do and who you are, you are out of integrity. I call it The Integrity Gap. The greater the chasm between your daily commitments and your deepest yalues, the less your life will work (and the less happiness you will feel). Why? Because you are not walking your talk. Because your video is not congruent with your audio. Because you are committing the crime of self-betrayal. Worst crime of all. And the witness that lives within the deepest part of you— your conscience—sees it. Your schedule is the best barometer for what you truly value and believe to be important. Too many people talk a good talk. But talk is cheap. Less talk and more do. Show me your schedule and I’ll Show you what your priorities are. Witnesses in the courtroom could say what they want to. But the evidence never lies.
Wednesday 17 February 2016
Learn to say No
Tuesday 16 February 2016
Be a Happier Human
Be a Happier Human: Here’s a simple idea that has worked brilliantly: If you want to be happier, do more of the things that make you happy. I know that seems like an obvious point—but it’s not. As we leave the wonder years of childhood, most of us stop doing the things that make our hearts sing. One of my friends told me recently that when he was young, he used to love to take long solo rides on his bicycle. “I stopped doing that when we had kids and work demands took over. Life just got busier. But those moments out on that bike came from some of the best days of my life.” Another gentleman, a phenomenally successful entrepreneur, shared that his passion used to be playing his guitar and sing. "Those were incredible times. Then I started my business and it began to consume me. I miss playing music. I’d lose myself in it.” Here’s your To Do: Make a list of your 10 Greatest Passions, 10 activities that fill your heart with joy and remind you of how good life can be. And then, over the coming 10 weeks, inject one of those pursuits into your weekly schedule. Powerful thought: The things that get scheduled are the things that get done. Until you schedule something, it’s only a concept—and extraordinary people don’t build remarkable lives on concepts. They build their greatness on action and near—flawless execution around their deliverables. They get things done. This 10-week program works. When you get back to doing those things that lifted your spirit and sent you soaring, you reconnect with that state of happiness that you may have lost. And part of the purpose of life is to be happy. Really happy.
Monday 15 February 2016
Get Some Skin in the Game
Get Some Skin in the Game: I fail more than most people. I fail all the time. I’ve had failures in business. l‘ve had failures in relationships. I’ve had failures in life. I used to wonder why this happened. I used to play Poor Me and suffer from the dreaded disease of victimitis infinitus. But now I get it. I’ve been stumbling toward my best life. Failure is the price of greatness. Failure is an essential ingredient for a high achievement. As innovation guru David Kelley wrote: “Fail faster. Succeed sooner." You can’t win without leaving your safety zone and taking some calculated risks. No risk, no reward. And the more risks you take in the pursuit of your dreams, the more you are going to fail. Too many among us live in what I call the safe harbour of the known. Same breakfast for 20 years. Same drive to work for 20 years. Same conversations for 20 years. Same thinking for 20 years. I have no judgment on that kind of a life. If it makes you happy, well, that’s great. But I don’t know of anyone who is happy living like that. If you keep doing What you've been doing, you’ll keep getting what you’ve been getting. Einstein defined insanity as doing the same things but expecting different results. Yet most people rule their lives that way. True joy comes when you put some skin in the game and take some chances. Yes, you will start to experience more failure. But guess what? Success also starts to pay more visits. Failure is just part of the process of getting to world class. “Screw-ups are the mark of excellence,” said management consultant Tom Peters. The best companies on the planet have failed more than the average ones. The most successful people on the planet have failed more than ordinary ones. To me, the only failure is the failure to try and dream and dare. The real risk lies in riskless living. Mark Twain made the point perfectly when he observed: “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did.” So go ahead, stretch today. Ask for the best table in your favourite restaurant. Ask for an upgrade to first class on your next flight (good luck). Ask your teammate at work for more understanding. Ask your sweetheart at home for more love. Do it. I dare you. And remember, you can't win a game that you don’t even play,
Sunday 14 February 2016
Don't Worry
Don't Worry: The psychic disease: Worry causes you to become very lethargic and irritable—in other words, very poor company. Worry is the forerunner to fear, which causes anxiety and, ultimately, physical disease. You will never, let me repeat, never witness any truly productive behavior expressed from a worrisome mind. You should not mistake worry for a conscious concern. There is a vast difference in the two. You are worrying when you choose negative thoughts and direct them toward a particular end. Permit me to give you an excellent example that is true. A number of years ago I was living and working in New Delhi. I had an occasion to be in Mumbai and I was visiting a friend. He was in a very poor frame of mind, not at all a pleasant person to be around. That wasn’t too bad for me, I was just visiting. His family was in a much different position. I asked his wife what the problem was and she explained he was worried sick because he was Rs. 2,00,000 short to meet his payroll of the month, the following week. I spoke to him and said a lot could happen in a week, don’t worry. That didn’t help. I took a cheque book and gave him a cheque for Rs. 2,00,000. I said, “If you don’t use it, do send the cheque back to me.” His personality changed instantly. He was happy. The following month, my friend returned the same cheque, saying he did not have to use it. I replied, “That’s good, because there was no money in that account.” Ninety—two percent of what you worry about never happens. Don't worry, be happy! Every tomorrow has two handles. We can take hold of it with the handle of anxiety or the handle of faith. Worry is the interest paid by those who borrow trouble. I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear. --ROSA PARKS
Faith and Belief
Faith and Belief: Faith is bigger than the evidence: Someone once defined faith as believing in spite of the evidence that indicates failure. A friend of mine recently had his business all but wiped out by a theft, which cleaned out his inventory. Through some oversight, his insurance did not cover the stock, leaving him with an empty warehouse. I came to know of my friend's dilemma that he was virtually out of business. You must admit, the evidence of being totally wiped out is rather over-whelming. But not in my friend’s mind. His attitude is, “This is the way l started, and I will start the very same way again." This condition would drive many away, but his faith is much stronger than the evidence. What about you? Is there evidence in your life holding you back from going ahead, from starting again? It would be impossible to estimate the number of people who are held back because they allow the evidence to overwhelm them. On the other hand, you could easily recount the number of people who were once faced with impossible odds and succeeded because of one single piece of evidence in their favor: FAITH. They would have done it, no matter how great the odds were against them. The people in that category felt it would be better to try and not succeed than to not have tried at all. This explosive power of faith in oneself has a domino effect. It knocks over any number of obstacles and picks up momentum as it moves forward. My friend proved, once again, that all of us are bigger than the evidence that indicates failure. You can prove this to yourself when you decide to move forward toward one obstacle at a time, and with a strong faith, you will increase the possibility of winning. A man of courage is also full of faith. We can let circumstances rule us or we can take Charge and rule our lives from within.
Get Fit
Get Fit: You should always think of being ultra-fit if you want to be at your best. Getting into world- class physical condition is one of the smartest moves you can make. Exercising will make you look better, feel stronger and fill you with boundless energy. Staying fit will even make you happier. The past week has been a time of great change for me. I’m reengineering my business to make it more focused and fast. I’m coaching my team so that they know the new standards and goals. I’m pushing myself harder to get more done and generate better results. And I’m lifting the bar on the size of my dreams. I need to make a bigger difference. I passionately feel that. As I go through all this, one of the practices which is serving me so well is my daily pilgrimage to the gym. I remember a professional speaker named Peter Bender once telling me: "Some people go to church each day. Well, my church is the gym. And each day that's where I go to get blessed”. I also remember someone sharing: "Exercise is an insurance policy I've taken out on my health. And each day that I go to the gym, I'm paying the premium". Yet another person told me: “Good health is a crown on the head of a well person that only a sick person can see." Smart points. No matter how busy I get or how much pressure is on my shoulders, a good workout makes me feel at ease. I come off the treadmill feeling relaxed, full of joy and with a sense of perspective over the issues on my plate. I get so many big ideas while I’m running and such clarity while I’m lifting weights. And staying fit keeps me happy and positive. Look, I know l’ll never be Mr. Universe. But because I care for my health, my life will be a lot better, more productive and longer than if I didn’t. And that’s good enough for me.
Thursday 11 February 2016
Do a Clean Sweep
Wednesday 10 February 2016
Self Image
Self Image: In today's world of self-help seminars, books, and audios, there is a lot to talk about self-talk. We've always talked to ourselves but, until recently, you very rarely heard people openly admit it. Talking to yourself was considered to be a sign of mental instability. Not anymore. Now it's the "in thing" to do.If you want to win, positive self—talk will keep you moving in the direction of your goal. Successful people generally think and feel positively about themselves. They translate these feelings and thoughts into powerful words and phrases, creating a stream of self- talk that helps them become or continue to be successful. The positive self—talk then translates into the action that produces the results they desire. Begin today to be your own best friend, your best supporter. When you talk to yourself, select qualities and characteristics. Talk about the good, not the bad; the success, not the failure; the accomplishments of each day rather than what you didn't complete.As you adopt and practice this process, and make it a daily ritual, you will begin to experience a new you. The language you use in positive self-talk will create a new reality. Your perception of who you are and what your value is with respect to your business, your family, and your community will change in your mind. This chain of new positive thought introduces a different thought pattern. Ultimately, through daily practice of positive self-talk, you will achieve greater results. You’ll be amazed at how quickly you’ll notice a much more vibrant you! Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment. If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self. Self-image sets the boundaries of individual accomplishment.
Tuesday 9 February 2016
Luck versus Law
Luck versus Law: It's true what they say: The harder you work, the luckier you get. You may wonder, “Is a remarkable life the result of luck or are there a series of natural laws at play that produce great results once we align ourselves with them?” Well here’s my answer. Good things happen to people who do good things. Do the right things and you cannot help but see the right results. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about farming. Just think about it: The laws of the farm and the laws of nature are the same laws that rule our business and personal lives. As you sow, so shall you reap. Care for and nurture your farm and a bountiful harvest cannot help but develop. Care for and nurture your career or your health or your relationships and do you really believe that you will be denied an abundance of produce? Not possible. Sure, Sometimes we get lucky. That’s just icing on the cake. To me, life is the result of living in alignment with the laws of nature. Doing things like adding value to your customers and all those who surround you. Treating everyone you meet like a VIP. Being unexpectedly honest and surprisingly enthusiastic. Just keep doing these things and you’ll be fine. And remember, the more seeds you plant, the more plants you’ll see.
Monday 8 February 2016
Cherish Conflict
Cherish Conflict: Everybody runs from conflict. It makes us feel bad, so we avoid it. Hope it will somehow resolve itself. It never does. Instead it just festers like a bad wound (what we resist really does persist). Here’s my take on conflict: Conflict is nothing more than an opportunity for greater growth and a deeper personal connection. Every conflict carries within it a chance for you to learn a powerful lesson and to grow as a human being (in your understanding and awareness and perspective). And every conflict, whether with a loved one or a customer, is a gorgeous opportunity to forge an even closer bond with them. By turning their dissatisfaction into a wow for both of you. So don’t run from conflict. Don’t send the email when you know you need to speak some truth face to face. Leadership is about balancing compassion with courage. And though it can feel so messy, in truth it’s a gift. Embrace it. Relish the potential it carries. Celebrate it. It can serve you so well.
Inquire and Investigate...
When we intend to buy a car, a smart phone, a laptop or a television we inquire and investigate and do enormous research on the internet, seek advice from friends and relatives and then decide to purchase. Suppose the purchased product is defective or malfunctions, we have an option to exchange or get a refund. However, when it comes to marriage proposals, we do not think it necessary to inquire or investigate. Many a marriage proposals are finalized based on one or two aspects about the prospective bride or bridegroom by ignoring some vital information that may cause disharmony in the relationship. It is therefore necessary that parents and those seeking a spouse should thoroughly inquire and investigate all possible aspects before finalizing the proposal. A majority of parents who are on the lookout for a prospective spouse for their children feel satisfied if their basic expectations are met. However, there are also parents who are not aware of some personal or health problems of their children. If any major aspect related to personal or health of the individual is not disclosed before marriage it becomes a barrier or a reason for divorce. Sometimes, it also takes an ugly turn resulting in the death of one of the partners. What do you think are some major aspects that parents should refrain from hiding before finalizing a proposal?
Sunday 7 February 2016
6 Powerful Questions
6 Powerful Questions: One of the fastest ways to find the solution to an issue or challenge you're facing is to ask the right question. The right question inevitably leads you to the correct answer. Questions matter. In business, remarkable performers are dazzlingly good at getting to the right question. The one that speeds them to the place they need to reach and offers them the missing piece they need to find. And in life, asking yourself a powerful question will allow you to step into a whole new set of possibilities that you may have missed while you were locked into an old way of seeing things. Like the lesson amid a so-called failure, or the opportunity that inhabits a setback. Here are six questions that I suggest you write them down and then find some time today to answer them in your diary. 1. What one thing-if I did it-would profoundly improve the way I work (and how I live)? 2. What need to happen between now and the end of the next 90 days for me to feel that this is the best quarter of my work and personal life? (Remember, clarity preceeds mastery) 3. Who do I need to express appreciation to? (Make your list long.) 4. What would I like to improve, professionally and personally? 5. What could I be grateful for that I'm currently not grateful for? 6. How do I want to be remembered after I die?And as you make this day extraordinary, I'll leave you with one of my favourite quotes (which comes from Mark Twain): "If everyone was satisfied with themselves, there would be no heroes."
Progress
Progress: The Unreasonable Person"The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.” That is a quotation from George Bernard Shaw’s writings. People are considered reasonable when they are content with the way things are presently. However, when we encounter people who are dissatisfied with the status quo and endeavour to change it, they are frequently considered to be unreasonable. This concept takes me back to a time when I was a young boy. My grandmother played an important role in my upbringing. She was continually telling me that I should be satisfied with what I had. My grandmother was a real Angel of God in my mind, but as look back to those days, I realize that there were a number of points she attempted to sell me where she was wrong. This was one of those points. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being dissatisfied. In fact, there is a lot of good to be derived from a mind which is dissatisfied. It was dissatisfactionby hat caused Edison to light up the world; Ford to give us the automobile; the Wright brothers to introduce us to a new kingdom; and Bell to enable us to speak to someone on the other side of the globe. All of these great advances were brought to us because their inventors were, as many believed, unreasonable. The beautiful truth is that these inventors were dissatisfied. If you are disagreeing with a present situation just to disagree, you are very likely unreasonable. However, if you are diligently attempting to improve a situation, absolutely refuse to permit someone else’s remark that you are unreasonable to dissuade you. Be unreasonable in their mind, but move ahead. In the long haul, they will very likely follow you. Discontent is the first necessity of progress.
Conquer the Obstacles
Conquer the Obstacles: Obstacles are something everyone encounters in life. The trick of a successful life is to conquer the obstacles as they appear. I can vividly remember doing my basic training in the navy many years ago. We would get hauled out of bed at a ridiculous hour and marched in the cold to an obstacle course. I was very young at the time and never understood what the navy was doing or why they were doing it. At the time it appeared to me as if my government had hired people who had a sadistic streak in their personality, and paid them to design these obstacle courses. I honestly believed they were trying to kill us. Looking back today, hopefully much wiser and certainly much richer from those experiences, I realize that they were trying to toughen us up, make men out of boys. The obstacles were causing my peers and me to get in touch with something within us we didn't even know was there. There is something else of real value I can see today that I totally missed years ago. Although there was always a certain amount of hostility felt by everyone prior to these marches, it was an enthusiastic group that returned- tired, but enthused. We had accomplished something; we conquered the obstacles. The leaders we referred to as sadistic prior to the march suddenly turned into good guys when we returned victorious. They were the same people with whom we were laughing and joking. If you are in the middle of what appears to be an obstacle course today, reach out to meet the obstacles. Conquer them, and I guarantee that you will see yourself as a stronger, wiser, and happier person. (Excerpts from a Bob Proctor book)
Thursday 4 February 2016
Be Crazily Enthusiastic
Be Crazily Enthusiastic: “Be enthusiastic” indicates the obvious. “Be energetic” sounds dull. “Be passionate” seems boring. Yet Without enthusiasm, energy and passion, you cannot lead your field and an organization cannot get to world class. (I never suggested this leadership stuff was rocket science.) Ralph Waldo Emerson once said: “Every great and commanding movement in the annals of the world is due to the triumph of enthusiasm.” And Samuel Ullman observed: “Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul.” Enthusiasm matters. The people I love to be around are generally those that have a simple, heartfelt quality: They are enthusiastic. Wildly so. They are open to life. They are curious. They love to learn. They smile when they see me. And they have a lot of fun. Play hard or don’t play at all.Today, show up at work with all the enthusiasm you can genuinely muster. Be outrageously energetic and madly alive. See the best in people. Go the extra mile to delight your customers. See the opportunity for learning and personal evolution amidst a seeming setback. Embrace change as a chance to grow. Have a laugh with a teammate. Tell your loved ones you adore them. Spread some passion.l’ll be the first to agree that you can’t control what happens to you each day. But with an abundance of enthusiasm, I have no doubt that whatever the coming hours bring, you will handle them with grace, strength and a smile.
Guests are GOD
Guests are GOD: I've tried some of the deepest lessons on life from guys driving taxis. Want some big-time wisdom? Jump in a cab. Put away your cell phone and get to know the human being in front of you. He speaks to hundreds of people each day. Very often, he is wiser than you could imagine. I was reminded of that last night. I was in Mumbai. I love this place. Love the food. Love the energy. Love the people. The driver’s name was Ramesh Sharma. He saw my name on the taxi reservation sheet and started a long chat (Mumbai traffic is crazy- We had lots of time) and really connected. He asked where I am from etc. etc. He laughed like a child—He told me about his family, his passion for reading, his philosophy. And then he said something I will never forget. "In the North of India, where I am from," he noted with pride, "a guest is God. When someone comes to our home, we treat them with the highest of respect and love. Even if we've to miss eating, we make sure they are well fed. That’s our culture. It brings us joy.” Brilliant! In your life, and in your organization, do you treat your "guests like Gods"? Is that idea a part of your personal and organizational culture? And let me also ask you: What would your personal life look like if everyone who visited you and intersected the journey of your days was treated like a God (whether that person was a family member or a stranger on the street)? What would your professional life look like if you treated your customers with reverence and admiration? You’d be World class. You’d be more successful. You’d be happier. You’d get to greatness. ( Excerpts from a Robin Sharma book)
Wednesday 3 February 2016
The Wow Factor
The Wow Factor: I checked into a hotel on the Juhu beach in Mumbai. I saw it being renovated a few months ago and made a mental note to check it out on my next visit to Mumbai. So here I am, waiting to be impressed, just aching for a reason to tell you something good about this place where so many businesses are rocking. l like trying new hotels when I travel. I observe what to do (and mostly what not to do) when It comes to customer service, study cool design and check out whether the hotel understands that in this “experience economy” we now live in, the customers must be taken on a journey from start to finish that makes them go “wow.” This place is amazing. Big smile when I entered, from the doorman, and a warm greeting. Ultra cool design inside. Lots of green and fresh colors. Sexy music and vibe. Super nice front desk staff—the smile thing again with a wonderful offer of Evian water with a slice of lime while I was checking in. And since the MTV Video Music Awards are shooting a video down by the pool, the pretty girl at the front desk asked me whether I wanted a room that would allow me to watch all the action. Sure, I don’t need much sleep anyway. The bellman showed me the workout facility and then the spa. Best hotel gym I've seen since long. The room is awesome—art deco, impeccably clean and stylishly put together. Stunning and very impressive. This hotel under-promised and then over-delivered. It had a chance to win me over, and through well-trained staff, unique and superbly kept facilities and excellent amenities, it did. Now I’m going back downstairs to try its food (everyone raves about its restaurant, where the chef has a spice rack of 1000 spices that he uses in his cooking). I bet I'll be wowed.
Monday 1 February 2016
Two Ears and One Mouth
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