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Pride In Parenting

Pride In Parenting: Leadership begins at home. Your family is an organization that needs to be managed, cherished and elevated if you aim to truly get to the rare life I believe you deserve. I also believe that the highest moments of our lives are the moments shared with those we love. How proud are you of your kids? Are they your primary priority? Mine definitely are. I’d let go of all I’m doing in my work life in a second, if my children needed me to. Do you spend quantity time with your kids as well as quality time? I’ve been a father for 29 years now and I must share with you that no matter what toys, video games or gifts I gave my gang, nothing could beat my time. Thats all they really Want. That’s all they’ve ever really wanted. I can’t tell you how many uber-rich executives have flown their jets for meeting different people for business, and shared that though they “have it all,” they still have nothing. Because they missed their kids’ childhoods. Money is not  the most important form of wealth. It just isn’t.  So today; Iove your loved ones. Cherish them. And tell them the things you’ve wanted to say but haven’t had the courage to say. You will never regret showing them how proud you are of them. Ever!

Awaken The Superhero Living Inside You

Awaken The Superhero Living Inside You: We all have an identity most people don’t even know about. We have within us a giant, a divine being of love and decency and compassion. We have the spark of God and of godliness. There is no power greater than this.As has been said many times before, we are spiritual beings having a physical experience. But most people can only see the physical. They can’t see the potential that shines just below skin-level.That’s the thing. None of us are ordinary. We are all extraordinary. Some of us just haven’t discovered that fact yet. In other words, feel that Superman and a Spiderman within, so you and I have a superhero waiting to be released and developed into something more than we’ve allowed so far as well.SUPERHEROES SAVE LIVESSuper heroes fly straight into danger to save the innocent. The whole point of being a superhero is the justice they mete out and the lives they save from the selfish disregard of villains.Awaken your inner Superhero by serving the common good: We can reach out to those in need and, with superhero ability, serve and teach and guide and lift and bless their lives.Awaken your inner Superhero by being a source of hope: Life can also be big and bad and scary. Our challenges can seem larger than life, stronger than mere mortal flesh and blood, able to withstand conventional weapons, persistent, enduring, angry.That’s where we can shine the brightest, offering hope, standing as beacons to the lost and self-defeated, letting the light of our optimism and decency and faith and commitment to high values and enthusiasm for life shine bright.

The Ultimate Peace In Life

The Ultimate Peace In Life: How many times have you gotten upset because someone wasn’t doing their job, because your child isn’t behaving, because your partner or friend isn’t living up to his or her end of the bargain? Or when you’ve planned something carefully and things didn’t go as you’d hoped?This kind of anger and irritation happens to all of us — it’s part of the human experience.One thing that irritates me is when people talk during a movie. Or cut me off in traffic. Or wrongly park their vehicle which blocks other's way. Actually, I have a lot of these little annoyances — don’t we all? And it isn’t always easy to find peace when you’ve become upset or irritated.See, the cause of our stress, anger and irritation is that things don’t go the way we like, the way we expect them to. Think of how many times this has been true for you.And so the solution is simple: expect things to go wrong, expect things to be different than we hoped or planned, expect the unexpected to happen. And accept it.Let me let you in on a little secret to finding peace of mind: see the glass as already broken. So when the nice glass you bought inevitably falls and breaks, someday, you might get upset. But not if you see the glass as already broken, from the day you get it. You know it’ll break someday, so from the beginning, see it as already broken. Be a time-traveler, or someone with time-traveling vision, and see the future of this glass, from this moment until it inevitably breaks.Expect your child to mess up — all children do. And don’t get so upset when they mess up, when they don’t do what they’re “supposed” to do … because they’re supposed to mess up.Expect your partner to be less than perfect.Expect your friend to not show up sometimes.Expect things to go not according to plan.Expect people to be rude sometimes.Expect coworkers not to come through sometimes.Expect roommates not to wash their dishes or pick up their clothes, sometimes.Expect the glass to break.And accept it.You won’t change these inevitable facts — they will happen, eventually. And if you expect it to happen — even see it as already happening, before it happens — you won’t get so upset.You won’t overreact. You’ll respond appropriately, but not overreact. You can talk to the person about their behavior, and ask them kindly to consider your feelings when they do this … but you won’t get overly emotional and blow things out of proportion.You’ll smile, and think, “I expected that to happen. The glass was already broken. And I accept that.”You’ll have peace of mind. And that, my friends, is a welcome surprise.

What Separates You?

What Separates You?: 'Starbury One' basketball shoes look a lot like those made by Nike and Reebok. They are worn on-court by NY. Knicks guard Stephon Marbury. And they are built to last, like those of their competitors. So what makes them special? The fact that they are only $14.98(Rs. 950) a pair...really. The best businesses know their Separation Points—their competitive advantages—and then have the discipline to stay brilliantly focused on them until the whole world knows what makes them special. Tesla just put out a sports car- $100,000 a pop. But here's the thing: It does 0 to 60 mph in four seconds, is electric powered and will go100,000 miles per battery. Masterful Separation Points. So, have the courage to be different. Have the boldness within your industry to create value that has never before been created. Be strikingly creative, always getting better and dreaming bigger- And know what separates you from everyone else. Because if you don't know what makes your business special, how can you tell everyone else?

Angels In Your Evolution

Angels In Your Evolution: An idea just came to me. You’ve heard it before, but the more we  get exposed to a good idea, the more deeply we get to integrate it. Like reading a powerful book for a second and third time. Seems like a whole new book on every new reading. Did the book change? No. You did. Your capacity to understand got bigger. Your world-view got broader. Your ability to take in the insights grew. And so you discovered a whole new level of knowledge in that book. That was always there. You just didn’t have the eyes to see it before. The idea I feel so passionately about on this sunny afternoon can be stated in a simple phrase: Angels of Evolution. Nothing soft and irrelevant about this one, just a way to look at life’s challenges in a better light. As blessings rather than curses. Because they just might be. Angels of Evolution. Everyone who is causing you stress, struggle and challenge in your life just might be an angel of sorts. They just might be the very messengers carrying the lessons you most need to learn, to get to Your Next Level of Greatness. The difficult teammate might be an angel of sorts, here to teach you understanding. A business setback or professional disappointment might be an angel sent to build your resolve and commitment. A health issue might be an angelic wakeup call to get you to commit to a better diet, regular exercise, relaxation and meditation. Each encounter represents a defining moment that gets you to the excellence meant for you.  Angels of Evolution. The hardest stuff in your life is the ideal stuff to get you to where you’ve always dreamed of being. The people and events that irritate, anger and hurt you are the ideal educators to help you learn the lessons that will help you shine—at work, at home and in life. So that you evolve. And grow.

Angels In Your Evolution

Angels In Your Evolution: An idea just came to me. You’ve heard it before, but the more we  get exposed to a good idea, the more deeply we get to integrate it. Like reading a powerful book for a second and third time. Seems like a whole new book on every new reading. Did the book change? No. You did. Your capacity to understand got bigger. Your world-view got broader. Your ability to take in the insights grew. And so you discovered a whole new level of knowledge in that book. That was always there. You just didn’t have the eyes to see it before. The idea I feel so passionately about on this sunny afternoon can be stated in a simple phrase: Angels of Evolution. Nothing soft and irrelevant about this one, just a way to look at life’s challenges in a better light. As blessings rather than curses. Because they just might be. Angels of Evolution. Everyone who is causing you stress, struggle and challenge in your life just might be an angel of sorts. They just might be the very messengers carrying the lessons you most need to learn, to get to Your Next Level of Greatness. The difficult teammate might be an angel of sorts, here to teach you understanding. A business setback or professional disappointment might be an angel sent to build your resolve and commitment. A health issue might be an angelic wakeup call to get you to commit to a better diet, regular exercise, relaxation and meditation. Each encounter represents a defining moment that gets you to the excellence meant for you.  Angels of Evolution. The hardest stuff in your life is the ideal stuff to get you to where you’ve always dreamed of being. The people and events that irritate, anger and hurt you are the ideal educators to help you learn the lessons that will help you shine—at work, at home and in life. So that you evolve. And grow.

Go Perpendicular

Go Perpendicular: On vacation in Goa with my family. And I’m doing some relaxing and renewing. I’ve never eaten so much in my life. Yesterday afternoon the kids and I rented a little boat and headed down the coast. We hugged the shoreline, stayed close to land, never strayed far from home. This got me thinking. About Christopher Columbus. And about taking smart risks. Every explorer before him feared losing sight of the shore. They clung to the known. They opted for security. They didn’t dare. Columbus did something different. He was brave. Went straight out to sea. Went perpendicular to the shoreline. And found a new world. Good on him. Of course I needed to be safe with my kids. I’m just trying to make a point: Greatness, as a leader and as a human, sometimes requires that you leave the constraints of safety. Sometimes you just have to let go of the known. And sail out into the unknown. To try a new way. To think a new thought. To behave in a new way. And to go perpendicular when the rest of the world hugs the shoreline and clings to safety. Yes—I get it’s so human to feel frightened as we experiennce the Blue Ocean of change, transition and growth. But as Lord Chesterfield said, "It is not possible to discover new oceans unless one is willing to lose sight of the shore."

Build Bridges Not Fences

Build Bridges Not Fences: Had a conversation with a VIP today (Very Interesting Person). Thirty-two years old. Grew up in the hills. Builds fences for a living. A philosopher at heart. Told me how everyone is into building fences these days. To block out their neighbours. To insulate themselves. To maintain privacy. And to foster separateness. “I grew up in Mashobra,” he shared. “In our little village, we were like one big family. It really took a village to raise each child. Everyone talked to each other. People cared about one another. We were part of each other’s lives—a real community.”  Community. Beautiful word. Every single one of us has a deep psychological need for it. We all crave to belong. To know we are part of a larger whole. It gives us a sense of security. Safety. And happiness. The best organizations foster community and build workplaces where people feel safe to be themselves again. The best families do the same thing—honoring each other and creating rich shared moments. So maybe we should stop worrying too much about building fences. And start creating true security—by building bridges.

Treasure Your Valuables

Treasure Your Valuables: What is valuable to you? What do you most treasure in your life?  We're not talking about gold watches and diamonds here but rather things that you feel that you cannot do without. What is important to you in your emotional life? What feelings and people  are important? What inspires you, makes you feel good, energizes you?   Your valuables are whatever makes you ‘come alive‘. Make a list of them. Think about why you value them? Why are they so precious to you? Take time to appreciate and treasure your valuables. End of the day, your true happiness lies there.

Heal Your Life

Heal Your Life: However ill you feel, whatever psychological problems you face, you can still be in control of your own healing. If you have a physical condition, find out all you can about it and don't expect the doctor to 'sort everything for you.' Take the prescribed medicine but also investigate the alternative approaches.  Look at your lifestyle and nutrition: 'Do they support good health?’ 'Are your relationships supportive or stressful? ‘Do you love your work or is it winding you up?' Look beyond a single symptom; look at the whole picture of your life and take charge of your own healing. Allow yourself a whole day to enjoy a health farm extravaganza in the privacy of your own home.  Planning is important so decide beforehand exactly how you will spend your day. Buy any beauty items or toiletries that you might need. Shop for some delicious nutritional food. Buy some pure fruit juice and spring water to drink throughout the day. Choose some beautiful relaxing music and some aromatherapy oils to burn. Start your day by unplugging the phone and switching off TVs and computers.  When you spend a day just pampering yourself, you will feel refreshed and invigorated.

Look For The Silver Lining

Look For The Silver Lining: Life is full of ups and downs but we can learn from everything that happens to us. A relationship ends; we fail an exam; lose a job. Once the initial  anger/dependency/depression is over we can review our setbacks and use them to learn more about ourselves. Every event in our lives has a purpose. There is a powerful intention in every situation. Rather than remaining in a negative state which only pulls you down, approach the situation in a new way. As one door closes another opens. Look for the newly opening door, look for the silver lining.

Laugh Yourself Silly

Laugh Yourself Silly: How do you feel when you have had a really good laugh? You feel great, don't you? It rejuvenates. Laughing and smiling actually have amazing health-giving effects. Laughter really is the best medicine.  You can't have a really good laugh and be anxious at the same time. Begin with a smile, a smile can start to change your mood. Seek out something that has made you laugh in the past - a video, a book, the company of a certain friend, an activity. Or for that matter, laugh at yourself. You will feel amazed. Put a smile on your face and go for laughter. It can only make you feel100 per cent better.

They gave a beautiful life to a beautiful child!...

So, this is something that happened in my immediate family. My aunt and uncle loved and had known each other for over two years before they tied the knot. It seemed like a rosy story. Everything was all good and they were having the best days of their life. They both loved each other as much as they had done on the day they met. The family was also very supportive. Things were all good and they decided to take the next big step almost after 2 years of enjoying the marital bliss when they decided to extend their family. And that is when the trouble started, they tried initially for some time but it didn’t work. They went in for a lot of tests, took all the medication as prescribed by the doctors. Nothing happened. At first they had a lot of hope that something will happen and they would get the happiness in their life but with time they lost all the hope. And it was always a sad affair when the relatives and people were more worried about you being childless and like it meant the end of the world. I had seen that look in their eyes and that they wanted to share the love in their life with a third someone and craved for it every day when they see other happy couples with kids. The sorrow in their life seemed unending but their love for each other seemed eternal.
Then one fine day, we received a call from my auntie that they had adopted a beautiful baby girl and she is there at their house. We couldn’t contain our joy and it was at the peak when we finally visited them and there she was-the sweetest and the most beautiful thing that we had ever seen. She lit the whole room with her presence. My aunt told me that they had told someone in their village that they would like to adopt a baby girl. So, when they got a call from that person, they couldn’t wait and left immediately and brought home this 3 day old bundle of joy after doing all the legal formalities. Her parents were poor and couldn’t believe her luck that her child is going to an affluent family. A week back was that baby girl’s 1st day in the school and it made me feel so proud of my uncle and aunt who not only lit their home with this beautiful child but also gave a beautiful life to this sweetest child.

Never Give Up

Never Give Up: When your life is hard and difficulties seem to appear whichever way you turn, it is natural to feel dejected. When we are within the midst of a trauma we will not be inclined to take helpful advice on how to 'feel better.' We need to experience the sadness, grief, anger, rage, hurt, shame or whatever strong emotions we are going through. However, the darkest phase is truly just before the dawn. Never ever give up on the miraculous process of life. Believe in yourself and know that you 'can' and 'will' feel hopeful and joyous again.

Change Your Environment Everyday

Change Your Environment Everyday: Research shows that the more we are able to express ourselves positively in our environment the more relaxed and happy we are able to become.  Every day do something to make your surroundings more beautiful.  EXAMPLES:*Put fresh flowers in your bedroom.  *Bring a photo for your desk at work *Change a room around*Wash the curtains*Put a plant in your office*Move the pictures around in your house*Play beautiful music while you do the housework*Light a candle when you sit down for a mealGive your surroundings some Tender Loving Care and feel the difference.

Be Slim And Re-invent Yourself

Be Slim And Re-invent Yourself: You know those days when you wake up feeling lethargic, bloated and overfed and low in the attraction stakes? Get a grip on your day and turn it into a 24 hour programe which will take off a little weight, make you feel spiritually lighter, more in control and will increase your feelings of self-respect. Keep your diet as light and pure as you can. Drink hot water with lemon juice every couple of hours to detoxify your system. Have some exercise time and relaxation time throughout the day. Tomorrow you will wake up feeling better, brighter and lighter.  Do something which is out of character. Here are a few ideas-  Change your style of dress. How long have you had the same hairstyle? More than a year? Change it. Find a new friend, someone who is quite unlike you. Start a new hobby or join a class. Change your make-up/aftershave. Change is like a breath of fresh air, enjoy the new perspectives it brings. Have a great and fulfilling life ahead!

Respect Parenthood

Respect Parenthood: When the dinner is burning and the washing machine has broken down and you only had three hours sleep last night, remember: you are not alone!  Parents everywhere do the magnificent job, so remind yourself to respect the act of parenthood. Make a list of the following points and refer to it constantly.Parenthood is a big job!I am doing my best!Parenthood is vital!I don‘t have to feel guilty!I need to look after myself!There are no perfect parents!l forgive and thank my mother and father!l can let go!Put this list in a prominent place! You will always cherish parenthood.

Make Your Own Mission Statement

Make Your Own Mission Statement: What is your mission statement? In other words, what is your life's purpose, why exactly are you here? To raise consciousness about environmental issues? To make the world a happier place? To ensure that your children have high self-esteem? To make people laugh? When you can make a mission statement your life will have new direction and purpose. Remember that you bring your unique set of skills and strengths to this planet and you came here to use those abilities.Discover what drives you from within and match it with the real world activities to give your life new meaning.

Do Whatever Turns You On

Do Whatever Turns You On: It is not necessary to take mood altering drugs in order to change the way that we feel. Think of how easily your emotions can be changed by the simple things in life. Perhaps a certain piece of music can lift your spirits, a walk, a piece of artwork, sex, a poem, surfing, driving, cooking, swimming, dancing, shopping, singing. There are an infinite number of possibilities here. Start to notice what changes your mind for the better.Make a list of the things that energize or excite you. And do these things.

Thanks to God and people those really helped me in my difficult...

I went into the love marriage against family wishes in the year of 1996. It was a drastic change for me since my new family was a big joint family and I had spent all my life in a nuclear family. And moreover the family members were not welcome and supportive. I tried my best coping up with the change and mingling with them, but they never understood me or supported me. I became a mother soon and couldn’t have been happier. The attitude of my extended family continued to get worse. I tried settling with them,  but to no avail. And then one day all hell broke loose when suddenly my husband passed away. My son was only 5 years old that time and I was not a working woman. This was the turning point of my life. My whole life changed. It was already very painful for me and on the top of everything everyone blamed me for my husband’s death. But yes,  there were people in my family who supported me,  but then they were few.

After my husband’s death, I started my studies again and completed my B.A. and did a computer course. 6 months after my husband had passed away, I started working and paid for my son’s school fees. I would work all day in the office and at night my family would bad mouth me. I used to cry all the time at night and then would take to reading to divert myself away from all the nagging. Almost 4 years passed like this. Some people advised me for remarriage. But I never wanted to remarry because I was concerned if the new person in my life would be able to love my son as much as his own father would have. That time I decided that time that I would be independent and work hard for the sake of my son. Now, after so many years, I am happy that I took this decision.

I continued working hard,  but the salary I was getting was very less. So, I applied on many job portals. I got an interview call from a company but I was full of negativity due to the hardships in life. Yet I gave the interview and to my surprise got selected.

After some time of taking up the new job, I got an increment in a couple of months and new responsibilities. After all these years I am earning well and am much more confident too. I feel safe as well.

I got separated from my in laws sometime back and now I am living with my son. He is 18 years old now and a matured person.  During all this long hard period God and some wonderful people have helped me and because of them I am still alive and smiling. So from the bottom of my heart,I am thankful to them all.

Besides this, I would really want to tell all women out there to study hard and be educated because education is something that will always help them in all walks of life. And there’s nothing like being self-dependent and having their own identity.

Make Good Vibrations

Make Good Vibrations: You can raise your energetic vibrations and feel lighter by using Uplifting words and thoughts when you speak to yourself and to others. If you feel anxious, use positive words to raise your energy. Say such words to yourself as: HARMONY, LOVE, PEACE, BEAUTY, JOY, ENTHUSIASM, COMMITTED, DELIGHTFUL, lNSPlRED  Think and speak of all the beautiful and inspiring words you know. Notice how you feel lighter and brighter when you use these words in conversation. Use uplifting words in the company of others; watch and feel the changes in their energy and yours.

A Special Child: A Boon or a Bane - As you see it!...

Nine years ago I gave birth to my daughter, who is moderately autistic and battled severe life threatening epilepsy for most of her childhood. I struggled with her care, diet and many other life style choices that you are compelled to make suddenly after the diagnosis.

I had a flourishing career, which I gave up. I became a 24X7 stay at home mom caring for both my kids. Sleepless nights spent in and out of hospitals were routine for me. 

Cut to the present I slowly started working again, first I began to teach once a week and then gradually went on to pick up a very good well paying job. I tend to dress well and take care of my health. Even then I am amazed at the stigma I face everytime people come to know about my daughter, they look at me with pity, and wonder silently as to why I am so happy then!!!

They think that I should be perpetually sad, look sorry and dress shabbily because c'mon I have been punished, haven't I?

I want to put the word out to all special parents, that it is of utmost importance that you celebrate your special child rather than considering him/her to be a punishment. My daughter has made me a better human being, more patient, compassionate and above all has given me the drive to succeed and achieve inspite of all obstacles. I mean, one look at her and I feel emboldened, because if she could fight through so much inspite of being such a small precious life, what stops me then!!

She has taught me to dream, smile and laugh from deep within, and bloom under my piece of the sky.

We must consider them as our strengths and feel blessed and surge ahead rather than becoming a victim of the stereotyped image of tired, hassled and penniless parents of special children.

Once you clear these clouds from your mind, you will truly soar and it is in your soaring that your child will find her wings...

Take a Shower of Light

Take a Shower of Light: Whenever you need a lift, whether it is to energize yourself or to ‘throw light‘ on a problem, try taking a shower of light. Imagine that you are standing under a shower. See large drops of white light falling over you and enveloping you. Feel the light as it embraces you. See the white light turn into the colours of the rainbow. Feel and absorb the colours. When you are ready, mentally turn off the shower. Put your co-workers in a shower of white light and see the difference in your working day!  CLEAN YOUR AURA - Sit comfortably, close your eyes, steady your breathing and relax.  Be aware of the energy surrounding you: this is your aura. Imagine a halo of light around your entire body; visualize an unbroken line of light encircling you. Now send a white beam of cleansing light around the contour of your aura. Imagine this light as a vacuum cleaner sucking out any dirt or negativity. When your aura looks bright and clean open your eyes. With your freshly cleaned aura you will feel like a million dollars. Clean your aura regularly to maintain good health and positive energy.

Take a Shower of Light

Take a Shower of Light: Whenever you need a lift, whether it is to energize yourself or to ‘throw light‘ on a problem, try taking a shower of light. Imagine that you are standing under a shower. See large drops of white light falling over you and enveloping you. Feel the light as it embraces you. See the white light turn into the colours of the rainbow. Feel and absorb the colours. When you are ready, mentally turn off the shower. Put your co-workers in a shower of white light and see the difference in your working day!  CLEAN YOUR AURA - Sit comfortably, close your eyes, steady your breathing and relax.  Be aware of the energy surrounding you: this is your aura. Imagine a halo of light around your entire body; visualize an unbroken line of light encircling you. Now send a white beam of cleansing light around the contour of your aura. Imagine this light as a vacuum cleaner sucking out any dirt or negativity. When your aura looks bright and clean open your eyes. With your freshly cleaned aura you will feel like a million dollars. Clean your aura regularly to maintain good health and positive energy.

Pebbles of Wisdom

Pebbles of Wisdom: Here are some of the quotes and insights by Sadhguru, a profound modern mystic.

Use Your Time Positively

Use Your Time Positively: Are you able to managing your time efficiently and are able to do things you love to do?  List the way your time is used in different activities throughout the week. — "Now list those activities that give you the most fulfilment.  And compare the lists. What are the differences between the two? How could you manage your time to allow for more personal satisfaction?  Learn to make the very best use of your time; it is your most valuable resource.  You should have the positive mindset while planning your time allocation. Replace Should with Could. Write down all the things that you think that you should do: I should..........................................Now, take each ‘I should‘ from your list, read it out loud and then ask yourself, 'Why should I?‘  Rewrite your list, replacing ‘should‘ with 'could' and start each statement with, 'lf l really wanted to‘.  Rewrite your list in this way and you might find that there are some things that YOU don't even want to change!  Don't be a 'should‘ victim, trapped by guilt. Allow yourself the possibility of 'could' and you will become free to allow positive changes into your life.