Sunday, 15 March 2015

"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it,...

You may be in daily interaction with negative people, be they friends, family members, a romantic partner or colleague. You love them, you care about them, you can't just cut them out of your life, but they are negative and their negativity is eating away at you. What can you do?

                  

The best way of dealing with life's challenges is to take a good look at ourselves and take responsibility for what we think, feel and do.

 

Never give your power away by blaming others for what you have or don't have, what you feel or don't feel. Once you do so, you'll become a victim of circumstance, and instead of using your time and energy to beat life's challenges, you'll sink to a dark and miserable place. 

 

Here are 9 smart, positive and effective ways of dealing with the negativity of the people close to you:

                 

1. Give up the need to complain.

 

Make sure you are taking responsibility for your feelings and mood. Don't go complaining that other people's negativity is affecting you, because it will only create more negativity. Take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings and see what you can do to make yourselves feel better and change the existing situation.

 

"Whoever has limited knowledge of human nature and seeks happiness by changing everything but his own attitude, will waste his life in futile efforts."
Samuel Johnson. 

 


 

2. Similarity Attracts

 

Good brings about good, bad brings about bad, and if we want to or not, we pull into our lives events, situations and people that reflect our internal state. Ask yourselves: "How am I feeling? Am I happy, excited, thankful and calm? Or am I anxious, frustrated and judgmental?"

 

You may find that you yourselves radiate misery to the environment and that part of the negative energy surrounding you is in fact a reflection of yourselves.


 

3. Don't believe everything you think.

 

This is definitely one of the hardest things to learn. Look closely at the negative people in your life. What is it about them that gets you going? That affects you so much? Is what they are doing really that bad or is your brain playing games with you?

 

Remember, the brain is configured to look for trouble, and one it focuses on someone's negative qualities, it'll be very hard to get it to see the positive side of things. It doesn't mean it's not there.

 


4. Focus.

 

Ask yourselves: "Am I ready to find the good in these people? Am I able to see their good qualities?"

 

Let the answers come naturally, make sure you are being honest with yourselves.

 

If you feel like you're insistent and won't change the way you are looking at people and situations, don't give yourselves a hard time. This takes time and patience, and when you are ready, you'll make this step. Remember, we all have good in us.

 

"It's so hard when I NEED to do it and so easy when I WANT to do it."
Annie Gottlier.

 

 

5. Don't make their problems YOUR problems.

 

For their sake and yours, make sure you are not adopting their problems and becoming negative about them yourselves. If you want to cure negativity, sliding down right along with the negative person won't help, just make it worse by validating their thought and behavioral patterns. Rather, focus on solutions, not problems. Offer that and nothing else.

 


6. Taking ownership.

 

Instead of being a victim and judge, blame and pass criticism, you need to take full responsibility for your thoughts and feelings, and take a different approach.

 

"Everything that annoys us in others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves." 
Carl Jung.


Don't waste your time obsessing and thinking: "They are ruining my energy, making me miserable; their negative energy is infecting my own..." Instead, say to yourselves: "How can I use this for my advantage? Is there something I'm doing wrong? How can I improve the situation and increase my positive energy to be stronger than their negative energy? What do I learn from all of this?"

 


 

7. Come with your own positive energy.

 

Focusing on negative energy cannot create positive energy, and the other way around is also true. Focus on making yourselves happy enough that you have great positive energy, and you will see the negativity cringing away from it. 


Remember, energy is contagious. 


How to put up positive energy? Focus on the things you like about the negative people, focus on things you love about yourselves, life and the world around you. Think of loved on

Wednesday, 25 February 2015

Muscular cramps and injuries...

CRAMPS IN THE LEGS

 

A leg cramp is a pain that comes from a leg muscle. It is due to a muscle spasm which is when a muscle contracts too hard. It usually occurs in a calf muscle, below and behind a knee. The small muscles of the feet are sometimes affected.

A cramp pain typically lasts a few minutes. In some cases it lasts just seconds, but in some cases it lasts up to 10 minutes.

Who gets leg cramps?

They are more common in older people. About 1 in 3 people over the age of 60, and about half of people over the age of 80, have regular leg cramps.

What causes leg cramps?

Unknown cause (idiopathic leg cramps)

Secondary causes

In some cases, the cramps may be a symptom of another problem. For example:


Some drugs can cause cramps as a side-effect, or make cramps occur more often. These include: diuretics (water tablets), nifedipine, cimetidine, salbutamol, statins, terbutaline, lithium, clofibrate, penicillamine, phenothiazines, and nicotinic acid.
Over-exertion of muscles.
Dehydration.
Conditions such as a high or low sodium or potassium level.
Some people who have renal  dialysis get leg cramps.
Pregnancy - usually in the later stages.
An untreated underactive thyroid gland.
Peripheral vascular disease.
Excess alcohol.
Some uncommon disorders of nerves.


What is the treatment for a leg cramp?

Stretching and massaging the affected muscle can usually relieve an attack of cramp. Most cramps soon ease off. Painkillers are not usually helpful as they do not act quickly enough.

What are the options for preventing leg cramps?


Consider your medication


Tell your doctor if you take any of the drugs listed earlier. It may be causing the leg cramps, or making them recur more often.


Stretching exercises


At first, do stretching exercises of affected muscles for about five minutes, three times a day. Do the last exercise shortly before bedtime.


Posture of the legs when resting in bed

Using a pillow to prop the feet up in bed while sleeping on your back.
Hanging the feet over the end of the bed while sleeping on your front.


Quinine is used as a last resort


If you take quinine you have a good chance of reducing the number and/or severity of leg cramps, but it may not stop them altogether. One tablet at bedtime is the normal dose. 
Side-effects are uncommon at the low dose used to treat leg cramps. However, serious side-effects do sometimes occur. Note: quinine is dangerous in overdose, particularly in children and pregnant women. Keep tablets away from children.Therefore, quinine is only used as a last resort when other treatments have not worked, and leg cramps are frequent and are affecting your quality of life.


Other treatments


Other drugs have been suggested as possible treatments for leg cramps. These include: magnesium, diltiazem, vitamin B complex, vitamin E, naftidrofuryl, orphenadrine, and verapamil. In general, these are not currently recommended, as most studies involving them found that they do not work very well in most people.

Monday, 2 February 2015

Surrogate Motherhood:...

Surrogate Motherhood:

It relates to women who are going through the process of a surrogacy pregnancy for another couple or individual.In general, a surrogate mother carries a child for another couple and becomes pregnant using some form of assisted reproductive technology, frequently IVF. After the surrogate mother gives birth, the other couple raises the baby.To be a surrogate, many surrogate mothers are gestational carriers. A gestational carrier becomes pregnant through IVF and gives birth to a baby that is not biologically related to her.

Here’s how it works:

An embryo is created using either the intended parents’ or donor’s gametes (egg and sperm).The surrogate mother’s eggs are not used.The embryo is created using very specialized assisted reproductive technology.One or more of these embryos is then transferred into the surrogate mother’s womb.The surrogate mother becomes pregnant and is then released into the care of her own OBGYN to receive prenatal care and for delivery.The surrogate mother gives birth with the love and support of the intended parents, and the intended parents go home with their bundle of joy!

There are many full-service agencies/firms that will match intended parents to surrogates. When choosing an agency, it is imperative to research the agency’s history. Important questions to ask include how fees are determined and how surrogates are screened. If possible, it is often helpful to speak to former clients of the agency.

Usually parents ask if the agency is responsive to clients? For example, are they prompt in returning calls and e-mails and if there is more than one person who can respond if the parents’ primary contact is away or busy?

Questions generally asked regarding screening of potential surrogates include if the couple gets to meet the surrogate in person and if the agencies do reference checks and routinely do criminal checks and evaluate her home environment or is the screening limited solely to a telephone or office interview?What kind of information do they obtain about the surrogate candidate’s prior pregnancies to minimize the risk that this will be a high-risk pregnancy?

 

Surrogacy Qualifications

Most surrogacy agencies and fertility clinics require surrogates to meet some general qualifications.They want the surrogate to be in good physical and mental health and to have carried and delivered at least one child. She should have had pregnancies that were all free of complications and were full-term.She should be less than 43 years of age (some clinics will accept older woman in certain circumstances; others have younger age cut-offs for all surrogates).She should be in a stable living situation and she should not smoke or abuse alcohol.

 

Psychological factors
The psychological strain that couples face – both before and during the surrogacy process – is undeniable and choosing the surrogate mom candidate is a delicate and often tricky process, multiple screenings are involved. 

Merits of Surrogacy:

The surrogate mom makes it possible for infertile couples to have a chance at parenthood.

That in itself is worth the tedious procedures that choosing a surrogate entails. This is especially true of same sex couples who not just want parenthood, but a family life as well.

A lifelong bond can be established between the couple and the surrogate mother, it is a beautiful environment for the surrogate child to grow up in.

Demerits of Surrogacy:

Once the procedure is initiated, there is no chance of backing out.The surrogate mom has to go through a lot of medically invasive procedures. She might not be willing to relinquish her claim to the child, and thus legal proceedings ensue.


Medical procedures

Once the legal settlements are done, both the couple choosing surrogacy and the surrogate mother has to undergo a lot of medical tests and processes. 

Budget matters

When it comes to budget, most couples might find it too costly for their means. And not all medical insurance companies cover the fertilization or the delivery process.

Time frame

Looking up surrogacy agencies, interviewing and selecting the surrogate mother and the following legal proceedings take some time. However, this works as an advantage for most couples as they utilize this time to save up the funds needed for a surrogacy.

In the end, the heavy costs, legal matters and even the medical discomfort…all the cons of surrogacy… pale into insignificance when you hold your child close to your heart

Friday, 30 January 2015

Fertility treatment: In vitro fertilisation (IVF)...

In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) is the most advanced, sophisticated and successful form of fertility therapy available. In simple terms, IVF means fertilization outside the body. After ovarian stimulation, eggs are collected from the woman's ovaries and then fertilized by the husband's sperm in a petri dish or a test tube in a controlled laboratory environment. The resulting embryos are deposited into the woman's uterus by embryo transfer. If the process is successful, one or more embryos get implanted in the lining of the womb leading to pregnancy.

 

WHO IS A CANDIDATE FOR IVF?

In vitro fertilization statistics suggest that couples under the age of 35 who have been trying to conceive for more than a year without results are ideal candidates for in vitro fertilization. Couples over the age of 35 who have been trying to conceive for six months may also be good candidates for IVF treatment. The following are a few causes of infertility that may be treated with in vitro fertilization:


Ovulation disorders
Blocked or damaged fallopian tubes
Endometriosis
Low sperm count
Sperm problems such as sperm immotility
Unexplained Infertility


Although there is no established age limit on in vitro fertilization, many infertility clinics and hospitals consider your age as part of the candidate screening process.


STEPS IN IVF

There are five major steps in the IVF and embryo transfer sequence:

1.) Monitoring and stimulating the development of healthy egg(s) in the ovaries.
2.) Collection of eggs.
3.) Obtaining the sperm.
4.) Putting the eggs and sperm together in the laboratory, and providing conducive environment for fertilization and early embryo growth.
5.) Transferring the embryos into the uterus.

The Egg Retrieval Process: The retrieval procedure to obtain the eggs is performed trans-vaginally using a hollow needle guided by the ultrasound image (this is completely comfortable under adequate sedation and local anesthesia). Eggs are gently removed from the ovaries using the needle. This is called "follicular aspiration." Its timing is crucial because the egg will not develop properly if it is collected too early; if too late, the egg also may develop poorly or may have already been released from the ovary and lost.

The eggs are immediately identified by our embryologists in our special IVF laboratory. They are placed with the sperm in incubators to allow fertilization to take place. The eggs are examined carefully at intervals to ensure that fertilization and cell division have taken place; the fertilized eggs are now called embryos.

Embryos are usually placed in the wife's uterus 2 or 3 days after egg retrieval. A speculum is inserted into the vagina to expose the neck of the womb (cervix). The embryos are suspended in a tiny drop of fluid and then very gently introduced through a catheter into the womb, often under ultrasound guidance. The transfer is followed by a resting period, blood tests and possibly ultrasound examinations to verify if pregnancy has been established.


BENEFITS

One of the most obvious benefits of in vitro fertilization is that it can enable an infertile couple to have a baby. IVF treatment can also reduce the need for surgery on the fallopian tubes.
In a recent study, nearly 1,000 European children who were conceived through in vitro fertilization and monitored from birth until age 5 were shown to be as healthy as children who were conceived naturally.


RISKS

There are certain risks associated with in vitro fertilization, as there are with any surgical procedure. Due to the technology and medical expertise necessary for IVF, cycles of treatment can be expensive., and the initial cycle does not always work. In addition, the use of multiple embryos during embryo transfer has been known to cause multiple births.


IVF STATISTICS - PREGNANCY SUCCESS RATES

There are many factors that play a role in the success of IVF treatment, including the viability of the embryos, the age of the mother, and the quality of the sperm. In the United States, IVF success rates have been relatively high. By the end of 2002, nearly 300,000 babies conceived through assisted reproductive technology had been born. Currently, 99 percent of ART pregnancies are the result of IVF treatment. Approximately 37 percent of women under the age of 36 who undergo IVF experience a successful pregnancy.

The success rates of IVF, as presented by these statistics, are similar to the success rates of natural means (copulation). The rate of miscarriage following IVF is also comparable to the rate of miscarriage after natural conception. Ectopic pregnancies occur in roughly 3 to 5 percent of in vitro fertilization cases, the same rate as in pregnancies achieved naturally.

Prevention in FLU and SWINE FLU...

 


                     Swine flu: Dos and Dont's to protect yourself from the deadly disease

 


The recent death of a 51-year-old woman, who passed away two days ago at the Sir Ganga Ram Hospital, after being diagnosed with the deadly swine flu virus, has once again rung the alarm bells in the city.

It is important to protect yourself before the disease strikes you as its next target. But, there is absolutely no need to panic as we bring to you measures, that you should help to keep the disease at bay.

Swine flu carrier, the H1N1 influenza virus, is prone to appear in winter months. It is characterised by throat problems, body ache and respiratory complications.

Here are the dos and dont's to be followed:


Do's list:


-Avoid close contact with an infected person.

-It is always recommended to cover your mouth and nose while coughing and sneezing.

-Wash your hands frequently with disinfectant soap and water.

-Extra care is needed for children.

-Get yourself checked in case of high fever and breathlessness.

 


Dont's list:


 

-As the flu is now spreading by people-to-people to contact, avoid visiting closed and crowded places.

-Always ensure wearing a mask while going close to an infected person.

-Don't touch your mouth and nose before washing your hands properly.

-Keep your surroundings clean and don't forget to sanitize rooms or belongings that may have been used by patients with influenza symptoms.

Thursday, 8 January 2015

‘Mera Kya Hoga?’ is a question that haunts almost


‘Mera Kya Hoga?’ is a question that haunts almost everyone of us… maybe once in a month, once in a week  or probably twice daily. If you are an Indian, it’s not difficult to understand what merakyahoga means. But for someone not well acquainted with the Hindi language, it simply means-‘what will happen to me?’ and that’s exactly what this website helps its users with. 
Merakyahoga.com helps millions of people deal with thousands of problems that they face every day. Often in times of crisis, we look for solace by sharing things with people around us or by asking for their advice. But, we really are at loss sometimes because even after approaching so many people, we are not gratified and don’t know if we could trust their opinions. This is where Merakyahoga.comcomes to their rescue.
Merakyahoga.com helps users from all over India and abroad shares their worries and problems that have been for long plaguing them, seek professional medical advice from various experts in all medical categories. These are experts’ opinions so the troubled could be rest assured with the advice given to them and they also get myriad opinions and zero in on the one that that they find to be best suited to them. If any of the experts has been successful with the conviction, the patient can directly contact them. We, at Merakyahoga.comdon’t restrict the communication between the two because we believe in the concept and nurturing of ‘H2H’ or ‘Human To Human’ relationship. Humans need to connect with humans. Merakyahoga.com is built around the concept of H2H and helping around millions of users with their daily struggles in life. We, on one hand, coax users to share their problems on our website daily and on the other hand, persuade the experts to guide the users with the ‘Right Advice’